Curiosity is one of the most powerful practices in living a graceful and free life that I’ve ever tried. In almost every situation that I’ve encountered, I’ve found that the approach of “Hmmmm. Wow. That’s interesting….” almost always takes the “charge” or “sting” out of the moment instantly. Curiosity has the power to diffuse almost any situation.
Instead of leaping to judgment and complaint, I’ve been practicing responding to the people and circumstances in my life with wonder – and sometimes amazement, ha! And I’ve noticed that it creates a natural relaxation on everyone’s part. There’s simply no blame involved. I don’t have to agree with the other person or like what’s just happened in my life. But approaching it with curiosity instead of the instant “That’s good. Yay! Or, that’s bad! Oh no!” meaning making, puts me in a position of peace and calm and keeps me open and free to choose my best next step. Sometimes the next step is asking more questions. People love to answer questions about themselves! Or it might be doing and saying absolutely nothing at all. This is a big one. It sets me up for the practice of complete non-attachment and non-reaction. The result is that I have a powerful experience of what great spiritual masters like the Dali Lama must be feeling when I see the smiling in the face of adversity.
It also keeps other people’s garbage out of my space. I just let them do what they do. I don’t have to let them hook me into their drama.
Try on getting curious about everything. See what happens. Let me know how it goes in the comments below.